What makes a good daughter? Does she have to be responsible? Respectful? Caring? Patient? Why not all of those things? First of all, let me tell you a really brief history of how I came to be; I was born on August 2, 1995, the first-born of Chino and Hazel Reyes. In my experiences, being a daughter is also being the ate to my younger sister, Chynna. Now that I am 20 years of age, I’m still not sure if I’ve ever been the daughter and ate that my parents and sister expect me to be. I realize that I’ll be graduating in two years, so I might be living on my own soon. This means that I still have enough time to prove my worth as a daughter-slash-ate. Since I’m simultaneously doing chores and writing this article, I’m going to share some of the tips I’ve learned (so far) on how to become a better daughter:
- Always listen to your parents. Because our parents have lived longer than us, they have a lot of wisdom under their belt. I know it’s important to be independent, but it’s alright that you consider their say on certain matters. We trust and love them, so you won’t ever regret listening to them.
- If you’re the eldest (like me), being a good ate is also being a good daughter. Parents love it when their children get along and don’t scream at each other. In my case, they always remind me that my sister is my responsibility, especially if they’re not around. It is my responsibility to take care of her and to protect her with the best of my abilities. If you do all these, your parents won’t have headaches and everyone will be happy (p.s. you can also earn extra brownie points!).
- Never openly express your irritation about something. Just don’t, particularly when they ask you to do something for them. Be respectful, too. From my own experience, my mom really hates it when I’m irritated about something even though it’s not related to her or the things she asks me to do. At this very moment, she’s asking me to attend to our dog, but I told her I’m busy writing this. I’m sure I’ll regret this tomorrow.
- Be happy. It is an unwritten rule that it’s your responsibility to be the support that your parents and siblings need. There are times when they feel exhausted or hopeless—this is your chance to make them laugh (yes, I believe laughter is the best medicine). Also, it feels good to see bright smiles on their faces.
- Always remember that they are proud of you no matter what. You don’t have to be in the honor roll to make your parents proud of you. Trust me when I say that they’re already proud of you to have reached (and lived) this far. My parents often tell me that it’s okay to not have high grades, as long as I’m true to myself.
- Strengthen your bond with your family. Love them, cherish your memories with them, talk to them about your worries, discover yourself with them, share your dreams with them… the bottom line is they’re your family—they will help you in becoming a better student, sister, daughter, and an overall better person. For me, being family-oriented is one of the best values to keep because our family knows us the best. Besides, you can’t be a daughter without a family!
Well, there you have it. The writer of this article is not liable for any ineffectiveness of the tips. Just kidding! I’m sure anything that I mentioned here will help you, the reader, one way or another. Remember, there is always room for improvement, and becoming a better daughter is no exception.